It’s that time of year again. We tell ourselves that this is the year we’re going to do things differently. We’ll avoid getting caught up in the consumer frenzy of Black Friday deals, perfectly wrapped gifts, and the endless to-do lists. But then the chaos creeps in, and before we know it, we’re back honking at teenagers in the mall parking lot so we can go buy generic gift bundles just so we don’t show up on Christmas empty-handed.
So, how can we as Catholics intentionally make this holiday season about something other than just consumerism?
Here are a few practical ideas to help you keep the real meaning of Christmas at the center of your celebrations.
1. Gift Experiences, Not Things
Instead of rushing to buy the latest gadgets or trendy toys, think about gifting experiences. Maybe it’s planning a special day out with family or friends, volunteering together, or even just setting aside time for a meaningful conversation. These moments stick with people far longer than most material gifts will. A good memory outlasts a shiny object, hands down.
2. Put Charity First
Before making your shopping list, consider putting charity at the top of your holiday to-do list. Maybe set a goal that for every dollar spent on gifts, you donate a percentage to a charity or a cause that’s close to your heart. This small act can shift your mindset, helping you to remember the season of giving is also about giving back.
3. Host a ‘Non-Consumer’ Gift Exchange
If your family or friends are up for it, suggest a gift exchange where no one buys anything new. You can re-gift something meaningful you already own, make something by hand, or offer your time and talents. Whether it’s cooking a meal, teaching a skill, or fixing something, these types of gifts often carry much more weight and thoughtfulness, and the focus isn’t on consumerism.
4. Pray Before You Spend
It sounds simple, but before buying that next item on your list, take a moment to pause and pray. Start by asking yourself, “Does this gift bring us closer to what the holiday is really about?” If the answer is no, maybe it’s a sign to skip it. Even better, pray about what the people in your life really need. Ask God to lead you to the right gift. To do this most effectively, spend time in a (somewhat) calm area before you even step foot in the chaos of a store.
5. Make Family Traditions That Aren’t About Gifts
It’s easy to let presents steal the spotlight, but traditions are what really define the season. Start new ones that focus on your faith, like lighting the Advent wreath together each night, reading the Christmas story, or making a special meal that you share with those in need. These rituals can shift the focus from getting a present to actually being present.
6. Limit Screen Time & Ads
Ads are designed to target consumerism and make us feel like we need more stuff. Try cutting back on TV, social media, and other places where you get bombarded with “must-have” holiday sales. Set time limits before you start scrolling. Focus on consuming long-form content instead of those shorts that pull you in. Use the time to connect with loved ones, read, or reflect. If you have kids, this can also help them focus more on family and faith rather than what Santa’s bringing.
7. Turn Holiday Prep into a Spiritual Practice
Decorating the tree, wrapping gifts, or baking cookies—these are all great opportunities to bring a spiritual focus into the season. Listen to Advent music or read short reflections while doing these tasks. Invite family members to share what they’re thankful for or how they’ve seen God’s presence during the past year.
As we enter this holiday season, let’s challenge ourselves to finally do what we always wish we did last Christmas. Instead of getting caught up in consumerism and buying more, let’s focus on giving more—of our time, our attention, and our love. By prioritizing experiences, charity, prayer, and meaningful traditions, we can re-center Christmas around what truly matters: our faith, our families, and the celebration of Christ’s birth.